The president, noting the remark, inquired whether the rooster serviced the same hen each time. No, the farmer told him, there were many hens for each rooster. The deep friendship of companionate love should not be exclusive, however. In , researchers at the University of Michigan found that married people aged 22 to 79 who said they had at least two close friends—meaning at least one besides their spouse—had higher levels of life satisfaction and self-esteem and lower levels of depression than spouses who did not have close friends outside their marriage.
I t will be no surprise to you that while I love reading Shakespeare, Pablo Neruda, and Elizabeth Barrett Browning on passionate love, my Spanish romance is best expressed by Miguel de Cervantes. In Don Quixote , Cervantes gives the hero this song about his beloved Dulcinea:. This conveys the intensity of passionate love perfectly. He is correct nonetheless.
Read: How negativity can kill a relationship. All the data and studies aside, the best evidence I have about happiness and companionate love is my own life. Yes, I've read about it in the Jackie Collins novels I love oh so much. But I didn't know what it was really like until I experienced it.
Having such strong feelings about another person shook me to my core. It made me re-evaluate my beliefs. I learned what it was like to really care about someone. Everything I had believed, everything I stood for, suddenly disappeared. I found a whole new world opened up for me. I was no longer closed-minded. I became a yes person. I learned the meaning of never say never. I had a new outlook on life.
Here are 10 reasons why being in love is the best feeling in the world. Your approach on life is brighter and happier. Your partner may do things that will make you angry, but if you are willing to not look at it as obstacles, but rather as opportunities for growth, then you are truly in love.
For him its back scratches and hugs. I mean calling and Facetiming. From experience, text creates so many opportunities for misunderstanding, and ultimately, unnecessary conflicts and trust issues. So, if I have anything to say about healthy relationships , it is to trust and communicate. We equally love, we equally respect, and we equally care.
Try to remember to spend time with your friends, too, instead of letting love completely sweep you away. In the first rush of being in love, you might feel completely dedicated to your partner, ready to do anything and everything to help them through a tough spot or even just make their lives a little easier.
Empathy and your fast-growing attachment can fuel your desire to be there for them and help them however possible. But the hormones involved in love can sometimes affect how you make decisions.
If you feel the urge to do something that would completely uproot or significantly change your life, take some time and think it through. After some reflection, you may still want to quit your job and travel with your partner to a different country. But make sure you really want to do it for yourself , too.
Sacrifices can be part of any kind of love. But people in love have a tendency to charge forward and offer help without thinking twice. But when it is, it can play a big part in falling in love with someone. The intensity of the hormones involved can affect your sex drive, increasing your desire for your partner and the passion you experience during sex. When you first fall in love, sex can also help increase closeness to your partner.
Great sexual chemistry can make you feel good about sex and increase your desire to keep having it. If your friends point things out, consider what they have to say. Love takes a lot of forms, and it can change over time. When you first fall in love, you might not only idealize your partner but also want to present an idealized version of yourself.
You might, for example, always try to look your best. Or maybe you try to hide what you believe are flaws that might turn off your partner. But over time, as your relationship strengthens, you may feel more at ease being yourself.
You accept that both of you will always wake up with morning breath. Sometimes you may not be completely conscious of this. You may find it easier to openly share your feelings with a partner you love and feel comfortable with. Love often conveys a sense of security, so you may not feel like you need to hide your feelings or opinions to protect the relationship. Your partner, like you, is an imperfect human. They have good traits, of course, which probably helped you fall in love with them.
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